I dont think words will ever capture that feeling when im with him.
what am i doing? im screwed.
18 Things I Wish Someone Told Me When I Was 18 ... Oh wait... IM 18!
. Commit yourself to making lots of mistakes. – Mistakes teach you important lessons. The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake. So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win. Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you will be left standing in the same spot forever.
2. Find hard work you love doing. – If I could offer my18-year-old self some real career advice, I’d tell myself not to base my careerchoice on other people’s ideas, goals and recommendations. I’d tellmyself not to pick a major because it’s popular, or statistically createsgraduates who make the most money. I’d tell myself that the right careerchoice is based on one key point: Finding hard work you love doing. Aslong as you remain true to yourself, and follow your own interests and values,you can find success through passion. Perhaps more importantly, you won’twake up several years later working in a career field you despise, wondering“How the heck am I going to do this for the next 30 years?” So if youcatch yourself working hard and loving every minute of it, don’t stop. You’re on to something big. Because hard work ain’t hard when youconcentrate on your passions.
3. Invest time, energyand money in yourself every day. – When you invest in yourself, you can never lose, andover time you will change the trajectory of your life. You are simply theproduct of what you know. The more time, energy and money you spendacquiring pertinent knowledge, the more control you have over your life.
4. Explore new ideas andopportunities often. – Your natural human fearsof failure and embarrassment will sometimes stop you from trying newthings. But you must rise above these fears, for your life’s story issimply the culmination many small, unique experiences. And the moreunique experiences you have, the more interesting your story gets. Soseek as many new life experiences as possible and be sure to share them withthe people you care about. Not doing so is not living.
5. When sharpening yourcareer skills, focus more on less. – Think in terms of Karate: A black belt seems far moreimpressive than a brown belt. But does a brown belt really seem any moreimpressive than a red belt? Probably not to most people. Rememberthat society elevates experts high onto a pedestal. Hard work matters,but not if it’s scattered in diverse directions. So narrow your focus onlearning fewer career related skills and master them all.
6. People are not mindreaders. Tell them what you’re thinking.– People will neverknow how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’tknow you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. Thatcute girl you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessedit; she hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given herthe time of day either. In life, you have to communicate withothers. And often, you have to open your vocal chords and speak the firstwords. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simpleas that.
7. Make swift decisionsand take immediate action. – Either you’re goingto take action and seize newopportunities, or someone else will first. You can’t change anything ormake any sort of progress by sitting back and thinking about it. Remember, there’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something andactually doing it. Knowledge is basically useless without action.
8. Accept and embracechange. – However good or bada situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can counton. So embrace change, and realize that changehappens for a reason. It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but inthe end it will be worth it.
9. Don’t worry too muchabout what other people think about you. – For the most part, whatother people think and say about you doesn’t matter. When I was 18, I letthe opinions of my high school and early college peers influence mydecisions. And, at times, they steered me away from ideas and goals Istrongly believed in. I realize now, ten years later, that this was afoolish way to live, especially when I consider that nearly all of these peoplewhose opinions I cared so much about are no longer a part of my life. Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, firstdate, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way. Whatthey think and say about you isn’t important. What is important is howyou feel about yourself.
10. Always be honest with yourself and others. – Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, andpeace of mind is priceless. Period.
11. Talk to lots of peoplein college and early on in your career. – Bosses. Colleagues. Professors. Classmates. Social club members. Other students outside of yourmajor or social circle. Teaching assistants. Career advisors. College deans. Friends of friends. Everyone! Why? Professional networking. I have worked for three employers since Igraduated from college (I left my first two employers by choice on good terms),but I only interviewed with the first employer. The other two employersoffered me a job before I even had a formal interview, based strictly of therecommendation of a hiring manager (someone I had networked with over theyears). When employers look to fill a position, the first thing they dois ask the people they know and trust if they know someone who would do well inthe position. If you start building your professional network early,you’ll be set. Over time, you’ll continue talking to new people you meetthrough your current network and your network’s reach and the associatedopportunities will continue to snowball for the duration of your career.
12. Sit alone in silence for at least ten minutes every day. – Use this time to think, plan, reflect, and dream. Creative and productive thinking flourish in solitude and silence. With quiet, you can hear your thoughts,you can reach deep within yourself, and you can focus on mapping out the nextlogical, productive step in your life.
13. Ask lots of questions. – The greatest ‘adventure’ is the ability to inquire, toask questions. Sometimes in the process of inquiry, the search is moresignificant than the answers. Answers come from other people, from theuniverse of knowledge and history, and from the intuition and deep wisdominside yourself. These answers will never surface if you never ask theright questions. Thus, the simple act of asking the right questions isthe answer.
14. Exploit the resources you do have access to. – The average person is usually astonished when they see aphysically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. Howcould someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answerrests in how they use theresources they do have. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited hissense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards toprove it.
15. Live below your means. – Live a comfortable life, not a wasteful one. Donot spend to impress others. Do not live life trying to fool yourselfinto thinking wealth is measured in material objects. Manage your money wisely so your money does not manageyou. Always live well below your means.
16. Be respectful of others and make them feel good. – In life and business, it’s not so much what you say thatcounts, it’ how you make people feel. So respect your elders, minors, andeveryone in between. There are no boundaries or classes that define agroup of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with thesame level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level ofpatience you would have with your baby brother. Supporting, guiding, andmaking contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. In order to get, you have to give.
17. Excel at what you do. – There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t goingto do it right. Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies. Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence.
18. Be who you were born to be. – You must follow your heart, and be who you were born to be. Someof us were born to be musicians – to communicate intricate thoughts and rousingfeelings with the strings of a guitar. Some of us were born to be poets –to touch people’s hearts with exquisite prose. Some of us were born to beentrepreneurs – to create growth and opportunity where others sawrubbish. And still, some of us were born to be or do whatever it is,specifically, that moves you. Regardless of what you decide to do in yourlifetime, you better feel it in every fiber of your being. You better beborn to do it! Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams anddesires.
But above all, laughwhen you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’tchange. Life is short, yet amazing. Enjoy the ride.
2. Find hard work you love doing. – If I could offer my18-year-old self some real career advice, I’d tell myself not to base my careerchoice on other people’s ideas, goals and recommendations. I’d tellmyself not to pick a major because it’s popular, or statistically createsgraduates who make the most money. I’d tell myself that the right careerchoice is based on one key point: Finding hard work you love doing. Aslong as you remain true to yourself, and follow your own interests and values,you can find success through passion. Perhaps more importantly, you won’twake up several years later working in a career field you despise, wondering“How the heck am I going to do this for the next 30 years?” So if youcatch yourself working hard and loving every minute of it, don’t stop. You’re on to something big. Because hard work ain’t hard when youconcentrate on your passions.
3. Invest time, energyand money in yourself every day. – When you invest in yourself, you can never lose, andover time you will change the trajectory of your life. You are simply theproduct of what you know. The more time, energy and money you spendacquiring pertinent knowledge, the more control you have over your life.
4. Explore new ideas andopportunities often. – Your natural human fearsof failure and embarrassment will sometimes stop you from trying newthings. But you must rise above these fears, for your life’s story issimply the culmination many small, unique experiences. And the moreunique experiences you have, the more interesting your story gets. Soseek as many new life experiences as possible and be sure to share them withthe people you care about. Not doing so is not living.
5. When sharpening yourcareer skills, focus more on less. – Think in terms of Karate: A black belt seems far moreimpressive than a brown belt. But does a brown belt really seem any moreimpressive than a red belt? Probably not to most people. Rememberthat society elevates experts high onto a pedestal. Hard work matters,but not if it’s scattered in diverse directions. So narrow your focus onlearning fewer career related skills and master them all.
6. People are not mindreaders. Tell them what you’re thinking.– People will neverknow how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’tknow you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. Thatcute girl you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessedit; she hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given herthe time of day either. In life, you have to communicate withothers. And often, you have to open your vocal chords and speak the firstwords. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simpleas that.
7. Make swift decisionsand take immediate action. – Either you’re goingto take action and seize newopportunities, or someone else will first. You can’t change anything ormake any sort of progress by sitting back and thinking about it. Remember, there’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something andactually doing it. Knowledge is basically useless without action.
8. Accept and embracechange. – However good or bada situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can counton. So embrace change, and realize that changehappens for a reason. It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but inthe end it will be worth it.
9. Don’t worry too muchabout what other people think about you. – For the most part, whatother people think and say about you doesn’t matter. When I was 18, I letthe opinions of my high school and early college peers influence mydecisions. And, at times, they steered me away from ideas and goals Istrongly believed in. I realize now, ten years later, that this was afoolish way to live, especially when I consider that nearly all of these peoplewhose opinions I cared so much about are no longer a part of my life. Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, firstdate, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way. Whatthey think and say about you isn’t important. What is important is howyou feel about yourself.
10. Always be honest with yourself and others. – Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, andpeace of mind is priceless. Period.
11. Talk to lots of peoplein college and early on in your career. – Bosses. Colleagues. Professors. Classmates. Social club members. Other students outside of yourmajor or social circle. Teaching assistants. Career advisors. College deans. Friends of friends. Everyone! Why? Professional networking. I have worked for three employers since Igraduated from college (I left my first two employers by choice on good terms),but I only interviewed with the first employer. The other two employersoffered me a job before I even had a formal interview, based strictly of therecommendation of a hiring manager (someone I had networked with over theyears). When employers look to fill a position, the first thing they dois ask the people they know and trust if they know someone who would do well inthe position. If you start building your professional network early,you’ll be set. Over time, you’ll continue talking to new people you meetthrough your current network and your network’s reach and the associatedopportunities will continue to snowball for the duration of your career.
12. Sit alone in silence for at least ten minutes every day. – Use this time to think, plan, reflect, and dream. Creative and productive thinking flourish in solitude and silence. With quiet, you can hear your thoughts,you can reach deep within yourself, and you can focus on mapping out the nextlogical, productive step in your life.
13. Ask lots of questions. – The greatest ‘adventure’ is the ability to inquire, toask questions. Sometimes in the process of inquiry, the search is moresignificant than the answers. Answers come from other people, from theuniverse of knowledge and history, and from the intuition and deep wisdominside yourself. These answers will never surface if you never ask theright questions. Thus, the simple act of asking the right questions isthe answer.
14. Exploit the resources you do have access to. – The average person is usually astonished when they see aphysically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. Howcould someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answerrests in how they use theresources they do have. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited hissense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards toprove it.
15. Live below your means. – Live a comfortable life, not a wasteful one. Donot spend to impress others. Do not live life trying to fool yourselfinto thinking wealth is measured in material objects. Manage your money wisely so your money does not manageyou. Always live well below your means.
16. Be respectful of others and make them feel good. – In life and business, it’s not so much what you say thatcounts, it’ how you make people feel. So respect your elders, minors, andeveryone in between. There are no boundaries or classes that define agroup of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with thesame level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level ofpatience you would have with your baby brother. Supporting, guiding, andmaking contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. In order to get, you have to give.
17. Excel at what you do. – There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t goingto do it right. Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies. Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence.
18. Be who you were born to be. – You must follow your heart, and be who you were born to be. Someof us were born to be musicians – to communicate intricate thoughts and rousingfeelings with the strings of a guitar. Some of us were born to be poets –to touch people’s hearts with exquisite prose. Some of us were born to beentrepreneurs – to create growth and opportunity where others sawrubbish. And still, some of us were born to be or do whatever it is,specifically, that moves you. Regardless of what you decide to do in yourlifetime, you better feel it in every fiber of your being. You better beborn to do it! Don’t waste your life fulfilling someone else’s dreams anddesires.
But above all, laughwhen you can, apologize when you should, and let go of what you can’tchange. Life is short, yet amazing. Enjoy the ride.
92. A post from Australia.
I've been in australia for 2 nights?I like it, nice HOT weather (it isnt sunny mind you), vintage and modern architeture co-existing together, really really friendly people. It feels like a vacation. I just wish my dad doesnt have to leave me here. Pfffts, the woes of growing up.
Tomorrow is a sunday. Outing with dad. Also means that I have to sleep at my hoste/dorm/whatever you call that.. I rather sleep in my dad's nice nice apartment. Starting from tomorrow, Im gonna go apartment hunting. So if you know a nice 2 bedroom+ study apartment somewhere in swatson street or some where near there, mail me!
Oh, friends... if you want to receieve postcards from me, give me your address via email. Put your subject as "(your name) adress" By the end of febuary, you will receieve my postcard... and remember to write back!
My Boyfriend is so handsome. Thankyou uncle, I will take good care of your kids.
Suddenly I'm like this..
I MISS PARK JAE BEOM.
Today's driving lesson was awesome.
I didnt too badly, the teacher was even willing to let me drive alone while he set up the arena. I takes alot of courage... For that guy to do that.
Anyways, wish me luck tomorrow... There might be more cars tomorrow(:
chatting with my cousin now, he said he use to find me cute...
that's a nice compliment since I think Im far from cute...
really really far..
anyways, I gotta sleep soon since tomorrow I need to wake up early to send the triplets to school then off the my driving lesson...
I love driving.
I love Hyuna,
Goodnight Diana.
Everytime I see my blog I feel so pissed...
It's so ugly!